Scientists have proven that we form our first impression about someone within the first seven seconds of meeting them and there’re definitely certain factors to instantly make or break it. To leave a good first impression on people, you need to note the following points;
The wrong attire:
Whether we like it or not, people do judge a book by its cover and remember, they do it in seven seconds of setting their eyes on us. 55% of first impression is based on appearance.
If you’re meeting someone for the first time, especially in a formal situation, try to be conservative in your choice of cloth. Be polished and don’t use heavy perfume or a tones of makeup’s. Just look neat and well put together.
A weak Handshake:
This point could be more important for anyone with an upcoming job interview. A flimsy hand shake can be a real first impression killer. People with a weak hand shake are instantly judge as been shy, anxious, uninterested or completely incompetent.
Another mistake most people make is holding someone’s hand for too long during a shake. Its so awkward. If you really are going to give the right impression of confidence and capability, remember to grip the other persons hand firmly and for no longer than two seconds. That will put you on the lead to success.
You’ve got to admit that it is incredibly annoying and distracting when you are talking to someone and you are chopping on a piece of gum. Put this irritating behavior into a formal situation or a first time encounter with someone and it becomes even more inappropriate.
Chewing on gums makes you look immature and self centered. Don’t think about it for a job interview, as you want to show your best qualities not your indifference to your potential employer.
On the flip side and in casual situation, people chewing gums are perceived to be more friendly and approachable than others. So be careful with this one, as it can either help or hurt you.
Picking the wrong conversation topics:
In other to avoid the dreaded awkward silence, a lot of people are ready to talk about anything with someone who they’ve just met but you’ll never know what subjects makes someone feels uncomfortable. So it’s better to play it safe and avoid the general taboo topics out there.
They include health problems, money, religion, politics or personal problems. Try not to focus the conversation only on yourself or your issues – that’s what therapist are for. It’s always a good idea to be attentive to a new conversation partner. A good listener is always highly appreciated.
Avoiding eye contact:
Eye contact has an unbelievable, powerful influence on how we view someone. People who maintain eye contact during a conversation are often seen as more confident, attentive, intelligent and trust worthy. People that avoid eye contact on the other hand are viewed as less sincere, more anxious and even unattractive. It doesn’t mean you have to stare people down like a crib.
Just don’t be afraid to look eyes with another person from time to time instead of constantly looking around, especially when you meet them for the first time.
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Playing with your hair:
Statistics show that women touch their hair up to eighteen times a day. That’s fine if you’re fixing in the mirror but if you’re playing with your hair while talking with someone, you could be sending them the wrong message. Firstly, they might think you’re flirting with them but more importantly, a person who toy with their hair during a conversation looks in-confident, anxious and uncomfortable. If you tend to do this habit when you’re nervous, try to kick it out.
Constantly checking your phone:
In the age of social media and 24/7 access to the internet, we have become addicted to our gadget. The average persons checks their phones a hundred and ten times a day, even if you’re just checking the time on your screen. It comes off as extremely applied when you do it during a conversation. The other person gets the impression like they are boring you or you seem to have better things to do. Even just having your phone on the table next to them reduces the conversation quality and engagement. So leave it in your pocket or bag, period.
What other things do you think ruin a first impression? Let us know through the comment box.